Don’t forget your me time
When you first become a mom, you can easily get so wrapped up in mommy life that you can completely forget yourself. You have this new little baby and all you want to do is learn all you can about everything your baby will need from feeding, sleeping, health needs, and how to spend your time with your baby productively. Your mom baby brain becomes like an insane spinning wheel and before you know it you realize that you have not been thinking about the little things that you might need in your daily routine to not become lost in mommy hood. You must figure out a way to not lose yourself.
You can get so focused on your babies needs that some days you can forget about your own daily needs like taking a shower, eating a balanced meal, taking a nap, doing your hair the list goes on. You might tell yourself that you don’t have time for those things some days, but you have to find a way to make time. You deserve to make the time. You are doing an amazing job; the most important job and you need to take care of you. Whatever that means for you, you must find a way to do it.
If you look down and you are still wearing the same shirt, or your hair is in the same bun, or you hear your stomach growling when you have a moment of silence or you smell, you are ignoring yourself mama. If things are feeling hectic for you, you feel like everything must be rushed, your exhausted all the time and cranky then you are ignoring yourself mama. It is important to create a schedule where you can take care of your simple needs and fit in a moment of me time. If that means you must ask someone for help so that you can do it, do it. Find help if you are taking on too much in your day. It is not healthy for you to not have any time at all for yourself.
Making sure your making time for yourself is a huge part of your health. If you continue to ignore yourself your stress levels are going to go through the roof eventually. You will start to lose the motivation for all the productive things you were doing before. You will get burned out. Making sure you spend some time alone even if its thirty minutes to an hour is going is going to make you a happier person and being a happier person is going to help your family. Depression is like a gray cloud that will cling to you when you are not loving yourself. You cannot do it all on your own and you should not try.
You are not selfish because you fee like you need a break. You need a break because you have been selfless. Taking “me time” is going to help you reconnect with yourself, your passions, your partner, your relationships with friends and family. Me time is simply taking some time for yourself that is for your enjoyment, something that is going to make you feel better no matter how big or small. If you don’t, you are going to risk getting anxiety and depression. When you are a better you for you, you will be a better you for everyone and everything around you. Being a mom is hard work and of course you are enjoying it, but you deserve to play as well.
A small list of “Me time’” activities
- Take a shower or relaxing bath
- Paint your nails
- Go for a walk
- Watch that show you have been thinking of starting
- Change your hair
- Call a friend or family member
- Shop online
- Read a book
- Change your living space around a bit
- Work out or dance
- Cook your favorite meal
- Write in a journal
- Sit on your patio and just breathe
- Do absolutely nothing at all for a few minutes
- Do a DIY project
- Go to sleep
- Put down your phone
- Work on a hobby or something your passionate about
If you are wondering how to get “me time” you may have to schedule it with your partner or whoever helps you with your little one. You must treat your “me time” like its important and be stern about it like you would anything else that is important. You may even have to say no to stuff sometimes. If it does not allow for you to make anytime for yourself then just say no. If your someone who struggles a little bit with saying no you just have to start to believe that you deserve to set boundaries and just start setting them. You do not have to be mean about It, but you do have to be assertive. You are going to set the tone for how important mommy time is in your home. We do not realize how we can come off as super humans sometimes and our family may not mean it, but they might start to think “oh she’s got it all figured out, and she doesn’t need any help.” They probably will think that because you are not complaining, or you are getting things done and you’re not asking for any help, but you know inside your exhausted and could really use a break. Be vocal about how your feeling no one will know your burning out if you do not tell them unless its physically starting to show.
It is so important for us to be healthy happy moms. It seems like we can do it all sometimes, but we are still only human at the end of it all. Take care of yourself on all levels. Put your physical and mental health above all things and I promise you, you are going to benefit from it and so are all the people you love so much. Once you start to practice your new routine you’re going to be amazed at how much more inspired you are and how much you needed it. Take one day at time and keep on blooming.